Let’s talk about when that cake order comes through that you’ve never tried or made before, you’ve have always wanted to, but you thought you couldn’t. You held back because you doubted your abilities so instead of failing you just steered clear?
You know that one I’m talking about, you’re freaking out just thinking about it! Don’t worry, so am I. But, one of the most important things I’ve learnt is TO GET UNCOMFORTABLE! When you’re in a zone of comfort you are holding yourself back, and allowing yourself to stay in the same lane. You’re not reaching your full potential, and blocking the path to flourish as a cake maker and an individual.

Life is all about those uncomfortable moments, because those moments PROMOTE GROWTH! We need to feel uncomfortable so we can conquer it, feel accomplished, learn and grow. When it comes to cakes the scary part is that there are no limitations. Cakes are a never ending loop of learning experiences and growth. You can never know everything, you can’t be wrong or right, you can’t stop learning. Learning and growing is a never ending job that you have to do in this industry. It’s our job to update our knowledge and continue to experiment. Sometimes we’re burnt out that’s totally normal too. But don’t lose hope!

I’m here to say if you’ve been avoiding a certain technique, a specific shape or a difficult recipe, this is the sign you’ve been waiting for. Get in that kitchen and try it! I’ve had so many cakes that have been requested where I say yes, and then straight away say what did I just agree to do? HAHA One of my biggest fears was 3D/standing cakes. When I first started caking, these were still all the rage. They were kind of the standard, if you could do one of those you were a top cake maker. I of course couldn’t do one yet, I also never tried, so how would I know I couldn’t?

I eventually put on my big girl pants and made one and it worked! I believed in myself enough, and told myself “I was going to make this” and “it’s “going to work”. My first one was for channel 7 it was EUNICE the unicorn! I had absolutely no idea what to do but after some research, brainstorming, sketching and a hell of a lot of pep talking I just got stuck into it. Part of the job is failing, so if you fail that’s good. I hope we all fail at some point because that means we have room to improve and learn something new. Learn to fix mistakes, so when they occur again you know exactly how to handle it.

Without getting into these tricky spaces, we won’t be able to conquer our fears, offer something new, learn something new and improve as cake makers and as people! When you accomplish something new, this wave of pure joy washes over you and you feel like you can do anything! When you nail that design that you thought you couldn’t it’s a wonderful feeling.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean take on every single order even though you really aren’t ready, definitely practice first and work hard before you use your clients as guinea pigs haha. But, if you are ready, and theres something in the back of mind that says YOU CAN DO THIS, then do it. Sometimes the best advice is, say yes and figure it out later. Learn to accept failure, learn to accept defeat. Those things are okay, they teach you to be better.

Here are some of the cakes that shook me and woke me up. All my first time making them, and I can definitely say I learnt a lot.


Ps I made princess poppy while I had appendicitis and after she was delivered I went straight to the hospital HAHA!

So what are some lessons I’ve learnt?

  • Be confident, but not over confident
  • Have back up ingredients
  • prepare ahead of time
  • PLAN PLAN PLAN for failues
  • Outline the things that can go wrong
  • Practice
  • Go hard or go home
  • Resilience is essential

And here is a wonderful poem that resonates with me not only when it comes to cakes, but all the obstacles of life. Hopefully It resonates with you too!


Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.


In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.


Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds and shall find me unafraid.


It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate,

I am the captain of my soul.
Love always, Nelle xx